Keep Ya Head Up

Misguided anger is the reason why some men exhibit deviant behavior. It would seem to make sense that men who were raised by single mothers would cherish and honor the sex that cared for them through life, but that's not often the case. They don't reciprocate the loyalty they were shown by the women who raised them. As an outsider who hasn't fully experienced the lives of these Bubblees, I often wonder if the women who "stuck it through" didn't somehow trigger their resentment towards women at some point.

Here are three examples that come to mind:

Flash - His mother was a heroin addict. He has cheated on his girlfriend repeatedly. Flash's father chose his wife over him at a young age.

Armslong - His mother was in and out of jail, and struggled with alcoholism. His grandmother raised him. He has no relationship with his father.

Thuglife - His mother has struggled with an addiction to crack. His father passed away when he was four.

Despite everything, all three of these guys are very close to their mothers. Thuglife, for example, goes home often to visit his mother. He speaks very fondly of her too. He's also a lady's man. This past year, Thuglife was in a relationship that ended abruptly. His girlfriend came to every game and even helped him with many of his homework assignments. As an outsider, all seemed well with their relationship until Thuglife gave me the skinny on their situation.

Thuglife: You know I don't date homegirl no more, right?
Me: Really? What happened? She seemed like such a nice girl. Good girls don't come around too often, man! Gotta hold on to those.
Thuglife: Coach, this chick was crazy! I'm good wit all the drama!
Me: What do you mean drama?
Thuglife: Tell me why this chick came to my crib in the rain and laid in the middle of the street talkin some nonsense about killin herself over me!
Me: What?!?! You're playing, right?
Thuglife: Nah. This chick crazy!!!
Me: You had to do something to trigger that behavior. Girls don't just do that.
Thuglife: She found out through facebook that I was messin wit some chick at another school!

I found out much later through a very reliable source that she happened to be carrying his child and ultimately had an abortion.