My parents began what turned out to be a 32 year relationship in a laundromat. Had either of them decided to wait until the next day to wash clothes, there's a strong likelihood that a relationship would have never formed between them. I always look at my birth as a mere formality, like everybody else's conception. If certain things hadn't happened that random day 32 years ago, or even 100 years before, this blog probably wouldn't exist. Our actions (or inaction) are that significant in this life.
Bubblees are a product of dysfunction over generations. Sadly, all it takes is one person to start the cycle of high school drop-out, drug addict, career criminal, etc. The way we parent is learned. Some people are able to break away from the past cycle and do differently, but that isn't the norm. As I've written many times, Bubblees often come from broken homes. Unfortunately, that one broken home can lead to several bad relationships and broken homes in the life of a Bubblee later. (Ex. Antonio Cromartie has 8 children by 9 women and can't name most of his kids.)
Flash is the proud father of a baby boy he loves dearly. He'd do anything for his son. This is quite admirable given that his father wasn't a consistent presence in his life. Flash, however, loves women. As a result, he hasn't been the most faithful boyfriend. His first year he contracted an STD from another woman. He followed that up by getting an ex-girlfriend pregnant.
I asked him about his other son when we reconnected. I had hoped he figured out a way to have a presence in the life of both children.
Flash: Things are going real good with me and my girl. We been through a lot, but things is better now. Much better. I think I'm gonna marry her.
Me: I'm happy to hear that. Really?
Flash: Yeh. She do anything for me. I'm really seein her as my wife, coach.
Me: How'd y'all work that situation out with your other kid?
Flash: She still ain't with that whole thing.
Me: So what does that mean?
Flash: I haven't seen him.
Me: You haven't seen your son at all?
Flash: Nah man. That would break my girl's heart if I got involved with him and his mom like that.
Me: You gotta find a way to work that out, man. That's another boy growing up without a dad.
Flash: You know what the funny thing is?
Me: What's that?
Flash: Based on pictures I seen, he look just like me...
sad but true Mr. Bubble! Lol... maybe I won't use that one again... What happened to the honor and pride that came with bearing a child into this world. The unconditional love and will to survive and do what is necessary to provide for your family (provide in all essences of the word).
ReplyDeleteThankfully though; people like you and me still exist, who not only who have a strong sense of values, morals and family; but who also don't mind passing those values on to others with conviction. Our society can't grow if we don't continue to guide and help one another evolve and regain our tragic loss of morals.